I set such high goals for this blog. Starting out I was going to post three times a week, every week on Monday/Wednesday/Friday. I was going to create an arsenal of topics to have on hand and they would always be published by 6 a.m. the day of.
And that joke, my friends, is on me.
I haven't posted in over two weeks. And before that I was getting maybe two posts out per week at various times. I had topics on hand but some were uninspiring and just didn't speak to me when I went to write them. And I have realized that all of the above, is absolutely a-okay.
So why the change of heart? Well, first of all starting a business is hard on it's own. Even when I'm only seeing a handful of clients, I'm spending days doing research, self-assigned homework, and filled with stress and anxiety about every decision I make or what will happen next.
Don't get me wrong entrepreneurship is and has been an exciting and fun adventure. I get to meet and collaborate with so many wonderful people. I get to see my ideal client. I get to set my own hours. I get to be my own boss. I get to focus on my passion and go for it, wholeheartedly.
But it's also scary. At times lonely. Stressful. And the hardest work I have ever f***ing done. It's chaotic. It's random. It's unstructured, which in my type A, recovering perfectionistic mind wants to completely shut down.
And the funk, the funk is real.
If you are unfamiliar with the funk, it can include any or all of the following:
- Frequent imposter syndrome and self doubt
- Questioning everything
- Feeling overwhelmed
- Sense of imminent doom (but can't put your finger on what it is)
- Your inner teenager screaming that the world is out to get you
- All the stress
- Things may constantly seem to not go your way
- Feeling completely and totally worn out no matter what (probably from all of the above)
**This list is not all inclusive and results of the funk may vary person to person
So what do you do when the funk sets in? When you have a bad day? When that gray cloud just seems to not be willing clear? I've compiled a list that have helped me through tough times and want to share them with you.
- Rest. If you are in a place take a day off work and your to do list, allow yourself to just rest. Personally, I put this off for way too long. I am not productive when the funk sets in but I tried to "power through" because society tells us that's what we should do. When I stepped back for a moment I realized that I just needed to cut myself a break. So Thursday, after my last client, I allowed myself to do just that all weekend long. That's right I took the weekend off and only did things that bring me joy.
- Set Boundaries. I'm still personally working on this one. As a chronic people pleaser, boundaries are tough for me. I always want to help everyone in every way, but this only hurts me and puts my needs and priorities on hold. So I'm working on setting boundaries. On my work. On what I say yes to. On what I do around the house. On what I take on personally.
- Check in on boring self care. Are you brushing your teeth twice a day? Making sure you have access to food every 3-4 hours? Showering or grooming in a way that feels right for you? Participating in activities that drain you or fuel you? Washing your face? Carrying a water bottle? Flossing? Making sure your environment is not bothering you? Getting enough sleep? Taking your medications? Connecting with friends and family in a healthy way? Limiting screen time as needed? Allowing room and space for growth? Not all self care is glamorous, but these are essential to our well being.
- Once boring self care is in check, participate in some fun self care. I'll dive more into my favorite forms of self care later, but it can be as simple as a bubble bath to as luxurious as a spa day.
- Read for fun. I'm a big fan of "self help" books and anything on nutrition, so I often times put off reading for fun. This weekend I refused to read anything but fun reads and am halfway through a thriller that ropes me in and doesn't allow room for thinking about anything else.
- Check out of social media. It doesn't have to be for weeks, or months, or even a whole day. But setting aside time that we are not checking into social media is absolutely essential. I recently read a study that found that just having our phone out in front of us, even when not in use, can reduce our productivity and takes away our attention.
- Limit your screen time. Now I'm all for a good binge every now and then on Netflix-and sometimes that is the self care we need-but it's easy to come home, turn on the tv, and tune out. Or "work and watch," which in reality your work isn't getting the attention it deserves. Now, my dog and I struggle with silence, so I either listen to pandora's instrumental station or my Spotify playlist that I've created with my favorite instrumental songs.
- Move in a joyful way. I'm not big into exercise, and definitely not exercise just for the sake of exercise. Yeah, I have my CPT but honestly joyful movement is where it's at (and what I recommend). So I'm saying you should move your body in a way that feels right for you. That's fun. That hooks you and gets you there and leaves you feeling better. Especially during the funk when "exercising" may feel like another task. Maybe this is going for a walk or a run or to a class you love. Maybe it's just stretching. Your body will speak to you if you just listen.
- Fuel you body. If I had a dollar for every time I heard someone tell me when they get busy they forget to eat. Your meals don't have to be fabulous or insta-worthy. They can be simple and satisfying. They can be take out. But not eating only makes matters worse and creates a fog.
- Ask for help. Reach out to a loved one, a friend, a professional and ask for help. Maybe it's asking your significant other to take on a few more chores. Asking parents if they can watch the kiddos for a day, so you can truly take it off. Or maybe you would benefit from talk therapy. All of the above are absolutely okay.
- Last of all, be kind to yourself. We have all heard it, we are our own worst critic. And we are. We set impossible standards and then are incredibly harsh on ourselves when we don't meet them. So just remember to give yourself the compassion, kindness and forgiveness as needed.
We all have bad days and we all have our own ways of handling it. So what have you done in the past when a funk set in? I would love to hear from you!